Suspending Expectations Makes Life Easier

Day 19

I was listening to a singer who’s political stance is one that turns me off from him as an artist. I choose to keep him nameless, although those close to me will know who I am referring to.

While I stand on opposite ends of his political preferences, I couldn’t help but miss the energetic music he used to produce. And I say “used to” loosely because although he still creates music, they’re hardly as fun as his mid-career stuff.

Yes, another clue. Mid-career is big since that was around the time he hit big in the U.S.

While looping a song of his on my playlist, I started thinking to myself how easier it would be if I could forget about his political choices. If I could suspend who he is and just accept his musical self, then I could enjoy his music without conflict. If it were only that easy.

Do our expectations of others hold us back from appreciating them altogether?

This also trickles into how I feel about other people. While I have high expectations for others, my expectations are not exclusive to them.

I hold such regards for myself as well and often find that I’m at odds as to why others don’t do the same.

But people are flawed, and some more than others. And these flaws, or blemishes, are the asterisks which give our lives character. And to have character is to give someone new the opportunity to learn something.

If in doing so, we’d have to disregard expectations of others, would we be settling?

If I let go of what I expect from others, then wouldn’t I be disappointing myself? Wouldn’t I be setting myself up for an opportunity that goes against my core?

Can you imagine if Hitler had been a great violinist? If strangers had told us to “let go of his character flaw” and appreciate his craft as an artist? Riiiiiiight.

At what point do our expectations of others become irrelevant, if they ever do?

Life would easier, life would more fun, if I could all forgo establishing standards of conduct. I’d have more friends and be supposedly happier. After all ignorance is bliss and well, thankfully we now have Facebook to validate the friendship quota.

Vicky Ayala

My name is Vicky & I am a brand strategist & visual storyteller. By day, I work with multi-passionate entrepreneurs to organize their creative genius into a memorable brand experience with engaging design, authentic storytelling and strategic online marketing. When I'm not conjuring brand magic, you can find me musing about the entrepreneurial journey which includes everything from finding the perfect chai latte to plotting my domestic move to Miami.